Oh gee – it’s the G-spot!

How many women actually know where their G-spot is? Here’s how to identify it, find it and stimulate it…..

So, let’s start with a little anatomy lesson. I want everyone to make a vagina. Create a slit with your fingers; that’s the vaginal opening. Now at the top where all the skin has gathered together, that’s where you’ll find the clitoris. It’s a little knobby about the size of a pea and it’s very very very very sensitive!!

It has a little hood around it, and if you pull the hood back and try to touch it, you’ll see that it’s very sensitive to the touch.

Now the clitoris is like a little penis, and when you get aroused, it becomes hard

Ladies, about 80% of all women will only orgasm from clitoral stimulation. If you are lucky enough to be in the 20% that can orgasm through penetration, the clitoris still needs to be stimulated first, but we’ll get to that in a sec.

Did you know that the clitoris is the only part of the human body whose sole purpose is to give pleasure? It has no other purpose in life, so you need to be very grateful you have one and give it lots and lots of attention!

Ok, now back to our vaginas. If you stick your finger in, in a come hither motion, just past where the padded part is, this is where you’ll find your g-spot.

Now ladies, we all have a G-spot: it’s not a myth and it’s in pretty much that same place for all of us

That’s two thirds of the way up your vaginal canal, on the wall closest to your belly button.

Now remember earlier I said you had to stimulate the clit first? Well, the G-spot only becomes engorged once you’re aroused, so start off with some clit stimulation or stick in your favourite movie, and when you’re ready, put your finger in and make a come hither motion.

You’ll feel that it feels rough and spongy. Like corduroy. You also know that you’re in the right spot if you get the urge to pee, cos your urinary tract runs right behind it.

Please ladies, don’t pee! It’s just not sexy! Breathe through the feeling, and if you really need to, get up and go pee.

If you carry on stimulating the G-spot to the point of orgasm, the orgasm you experience will be a lot deeper and more intense than a clitoral orgasm. If you’re overusing your finger, there are fabulous toys on the market that you can use.

Does anyoneknow the best kind of orgasm you can have?

It’s called a blended orgasm and it’s a combination of a clitoral and G-spot orgasm. This can be achieved by your partner wearing a VCR while you make love, or by using a toy that provides simultaneous stimulation.

Now there is one last type of orgasm that you can have

How much time do I have? Ok, it’s not often spoken about, but really it can be very enjoyable, and that’s an anal orgasm.

The entrance to the anus has millions and millions of nerve endings. Stimulating them the right way, can be very pleasurable. Doing it wrong, will just be painful! The anus is not self-lubricating, so please remember the first rule of anal sex is lubricant lubricant lubricant.

If you’re using your finger, use a silicon lubricant that doesn’t dry out easily, but if you’re using a toy, use water based, it’s much safer and doesn’t damage the fabric of the toy. Also if you are going to use a toy, make sure you use one with a long handle, or a flared base, because at the point of orgasm, the anus…. sucks!

You don’t want to be the one at the clinic saying “Please take it out...” A woman that orgasms through anal stimulation is actually having her g-spot stimulated through the very thin wall of the anus.

A man can also orgasm through anal stimulation, but that’s another story altogether…

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Author info: Jenni Osrin

Jenni is the founder of Bella Rouge Classic - an upmarket sensuality business that caters primarily to women and couples in Umhlanga. Jenni believes "that there is nothing more rewarding, than helping a woman get in touch with her sexuality". She has been in the sensuality business for more than five years and through her high profile parties and events, believes that there is strong demand from style conscious women in South Africa for a luxury retail sensuality brand that that is high quality, elegant, feminine and sexy.